Islam vs Senior Management

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I don’t usually like to start off as a sour puss but I’ve been feeling low for a few days and am desperate to get this sadness out of my system. Crying has not really helped but praying has helped give me a sense of temporary peace and yearning to try and fix my problems.

I was told at work by a senior member of staff that my manager had been acting unprofessionally by bad mouthing me to another senior member of staff. They want on to tell me that the senior managers accept unreliable and false criticise or accusations from my managers like mine. I felt very low after especially as she complaining about me not being in when she had granted me the morning off from work! This temporary amnesia is apparently not uncommon as I believe she uses it as an excuse to bad mouth people to senior management to gain brownie points to climb up this pathetic civil service ladder of promotion. It hurt more so as my manager is Muslim and as a sister I expected more support and sisterhood since we had similar beliefs to tie us closer to each other. Unfortunately, I was wrong. However, what has been more alarming from this revelation is that two non-Muslims had noticed how badly she has been treating me and others and told me that as a she is a Muslim they expected more compassion and support from her.

I felt ashamed of her as a Muslim sister because not only has she created a bad impression of herself but she has done it in overtly outrageous manner in that everyone knows she likes to ‘suck up’ to senior management at the expense of others including her Muslim brothers and sisters. She even refused a brother leave to go to Friday prayers. To try and give myself some sense of peace I thought about how Allah is watching her and can feel my pain and how she could face Allah if she died tomorrow. One good way of being close to Allah and helping you better your imam is to think about death and I believe that my manager’s problem is maybe she is thinking too much about this life and not the hereafter hence her terrible actions.

I am trying my best not think bad thoughts of her and have made dua for her so that Allah brings her happiness and peace and that I can move to another position soon. But she has tested my patience. She has even made me cry! Alhamduillah. I believe that this is a test from Allah similar to that faced by Prophet (pbuh) when he was badly treated by the kufar but still showed kindness, sabr and civility to them. However, more importantly he did not want anything bad to happen to them but left it to Allah as Allah knows best. A sister pointed out that we shouldn’t wish badly on anyone as one day they may beg for forgiveness and become better Muslims. Inshallah, that happens to my manager but I also believe that Allah does not want a Muslim to be badly treated or made to cry. Part of me wants her to feel the pain she has put me through especially as I’m not the first nor will I be the last she makes to suffer. I’m trying to search for answers on this issue but have been confused and I pray to Allah I can be guided to an answer soon and be given some sense of peace.

I am going to try and ask my manager for a move as a vacancy has come up somewhere else. Please make dua that Allah grants me this move with ease and to somewhere better. May Allah grant you all ease in your time of need. Ameen.

9 comments:

Safiyyah said...

As Salaamu Alaikum Sis:

Is she approachable that you could talk to her about it? Maybe your co-workers are causing fitnah. Even if she is a disagreeable type, she still has a right to the benefit of the doubt as a Muslim. When someone brings us backbiting, we are not supposed to listen to it like that. On the other hand, if you are sure that she is a big problem and it cannot be resolved, you are probably wise to make a move to another department. Sadly, Big Sis, some Muslims have big issues. Please don't cry, dear :)

Big Sis said...

salam wa alaykum sis,

Unfortunately, the facts are true about her and even as a Muslim that does not stop from doing the things she does. She is not approachable and holds grudges. I've even told her that as a muslims sister she should have more compassion for me but she threw it back in my face and told me that Islam has nothing to do with her managing me and she doesn't care about anyone!

Safiyyah said...

Salaams Sis:

Oh, I'm sooo sorry. I know that it even hurts you more because she is a Muslim. Gheez. I will be making dua for you to be able to make a move soon!

Big Sis said...

Jazakallah sister!

Hijabi Apprentice said...

How disappointing! Insha ALlah you will receive your transfer.

Asalaamu Alaikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu

Big Sis said...

Thank you sister for the support. Unfortunately I was not granted a move. Allah knows what is best and inshallah I will get something better soon.

Rainbow In The Grey Sky said...

aslamu alakum sister
i have just discovered your blog today and i am glad i did and shall be visiting you more often. I am sorry you had to go through this and feel all this pain and i am sorry you never got the move but everything is for a reason sister, nout is ramdom , Allah tests us in different ways. Firstly i will make dua for this sister and ask Allah to bless her with Taqwa and iman ameen. Try not to take to heart the pain that comes your way in words , remember if one back bites her muslim sister, you get her good deeds, also she gets bad deeds, also sabr jamilan (patients is beautiful) as we say in Arabic, make dua and ask Allah to give you strenght in these situations and to revel the truth. a liar always gets caught out sooner or later, you hang in there and you be the diplomat of Islam by showing good example inshaallah, hugs sister

Big Sis said...

Jazakallah Khir sister rainbow in the sky for your fantastic advice! I have gone the peaceful route and allowed her to get away with things but it has given me a sense of peace. Only problems is when she hurts me I need to get it and inshallah I haven't back bite and if so may Allah forgive me. But this is a true test which inshallah I will pass.

Rainbow In The Grey Sky said...

aslamu alakum sister

Allah test those that He loves and He won't test you beyond you ability, so yes YOU WILL get through this ameen!